a close and harmonious relationship based on acceptance and understanding
It’s not necessary to build rapport with a woman if all you want to do is have sex with her ~ but it certainly helps. Just casual sex does not require rapport. Instead, true rapport is the indefinable process of accepting and understanding one another, and thereby becoming comfortable together. If you have true rapport with a woman, then she will trust you, follow you, and believe in you. For this to happen she needs to understand you and be able to rely upon you. Ergo you have to become consistent, reliable, and dependable.
As it goes, women are more natural at building rapport than are most men ~ they are usually more open, more understanding, and more communicative than the average male. Women tend to have more empathy and be more interested in relationships, whereas men are usually just interested in sex.
To build rapport with a woman, be someone she actually wants to be around ~ and that doesn’t mean just spending a lot of money on her, (but that often helps). Avoid being selfish and talking about yourself, instead listen to her and try and learn about her wants, needs, desires, and dreams. Always remain calm, and speak slowly and softly. Be warm, accepting, and understanding. And, never fall into the common male mistake of thinking that you have to educate her about something she has no interest in whatsoever.
In Neuro Linguistic Programming, and other psychological / interpersonal approaches to communication and building rapport, there are a number of techniques that even a geek can learn and use. These include; mirroring, leading, and pacing. In all honesty, these are artificial techniques best left to the salesman who wants to up his closure rate. However, this stuff is powerful, and it does work on women.
The most basic and powerful way to connect with a woman is to listen to her. Just listen, and don’t interrupt her because she will not like that. Perhaps the most important thing you can give her is your undivided attention. And after that; acceptance, respect, and understanding.
Some say that it is impossible to be successful with a woman without building rapport. And that you need to spend time understanding what she is thinking. All I know is that sometimes I have to try just that bit harder.
here’s looking at you kid