grasp your own future

Dreams do not have deadlines nor commitments…..

Hardly anyone is really in control of their own life.  This is doubly true if you happen to be an ‘average person’, who has a job, mortgage, and normal financial commitments ~ face it you have to turn up for work every day, whether you like it or not.  Add in a family, who undoubtedly will have expectations of you, and your time is not hardly ever your own.  (And, I wasn’t even thinking about the ‘average person’ who is married with children.)

The ‘average person’ can’t really have dreams and desires, unless their dreams and desires happen to fit in with what others expect of you.

Just supposing you want to take a year off, buy an old school bus, turn into a camper van, and see as much of backroads America / Europe, as you possibly can in that year.  What do you think your partner / family / friends / employer / neighbours are going to say about that?

I’ll tell you that the likelihood is that their views and words will range from incredulity to negativity, to downright hostility.  That is if you are an ‘average person’ living a ‘normal life’.  Ergo, to protect yourself you would probably not ever have that kind of empowering dream and desire.

Instead your mind will be filled with things such as; ‘what can I do about my partner / sister / brother…..?’ or ‘how can I afford to pay my bills’, or ‘how can I get a better job?’ or ‘what can I have for lunch / dinner / supper?’

None of us can do anything about our past, except reframe the way we think about it.

Most ‘normal’ and ‘average’ people can do very little about what’s happening to them in the present.  The chances are that, for them, today will be pretty much like yesterday.  If they have to work for a living the chances are that any working day will be exactly like the working day before.  Even their thoughts and conversations will have a mind-numbing repetitious banality.

However, and this is fucking damned important, we can all do something about our futures.

NOBODY has to settle for the status quo.  If there is something or someone in your life that’s sucking the life out of you, then get rid of it / them.  If your marriage is crap / abusive / boring, then get out of it.  If your job is horrible and badly paid, then leave and get another job ~ there’s nothing like being out of work to put a real edge on job hunting.

There is only one problem ~ most people will never leave their ‘comfort zone’.  If that’s you, then it’s time you grew up and grasped your own future with both hands ~ carpe diem.

As for me?  I’m a really cool guy, living a great life.  I can do just about whatever I want, just about whenever I want ~ within my own pretty rigid code of ethics, and the fact that I don’t ever want to get arrested again.


jack collier


That van was in Palm Springs

10 responses

  1. The secret really is very simple – because it’s never really any better when we get “there”. Surroundings don’t mean anything which is why I’m never jealous of where people live/visit. They are bringing their baggage with them which they’ll unpack with the rest of their belongings. Change yourself deeply and you’ll be happy WHEREVER you are or WHATEVER you are doing. Don’t run to where you think will be fabulous. BE fabulous right where you are, you will attract the richest experiences – which rarely have anything to do with what you have or where you are but have to do with human connection.

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    1. Truth Karen. ❤
      No matter where you go, you take yourself with you.
      Today, as almost every day, I'll work on being the best version of me I can possibly be.
      A very cool guy, living a really great life.


  2. You area right about life not being in anyone’s control. Changing the job situation, now that I would have to challenge you on. Trying to find a different job at my age…. well…. I won’t go into how the last 3 years have taught me just how little control I have over my life, my job, my health, and my financial situation…. It just isn’t that easy to change what one doesn’t like. It isn’t a matter of stepping out of one’s comfort zone. Sometimes we find the choices we thought we had, were really just a figment of our imagination. At least, I haven’t been arrested…. yet…. ❤ ~Patti

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    1. Patti, thanks for your cogent comment. ❤
      Life has a huge inertia and momentum all of its own ~ choices that we made in the past could affect our lives for years to come, or perhaps forever.
      Making any change at all is scary, difficult, hard work, and sometimes looks impossible ~ and sometimes what we truly want, need, and desire just isn't going to happen. But, I firmly believe that it is up to us to firmly take hold of our own futures and really strive to get what we want ~ no matter what.
      Jack ❤ ❤ ❤


      1. I wish I could agree that taking hold of and striving will get what we want but these past 3 years have taught me differently. It makes me see others who end up in difficult situations in a new light. Sometimes life just happens no matter what we do to change it, sometimes, no matter what, it is something we have to go through and learn from and hope we don’t lose our sanity in the process. ❤ ❤ ❤

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        1. You’re right, sometimes shit happens, and we just have to cope with it in the best way we can. And, hope that our best is good enough.


  3. “Again?” 😀💕

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    1. Of course, again. ❤💖

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  4. That’s exactly it. That’s all there is to it.

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    1. That’s the Truth Sweetheart. ❤

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