Urban Survival Skills for Men

Being alone should hold no terrors for a man.

It’s pretty unlikely that I’m ever going to be stranded on a desert island, get lost in the jungle, or dumped in the middle of the outback.  But, I’ve been lost and alone in an urban jungle many, many times.  Today, as I write this I’m alone in my apartment with some cool music playing on my hi-fi ~ I’m alone in a modern jungle and I know that every single day I will need all of my hard-learned skills to survive and prosper.

The very, very first hard lesson I learned about being alone and lonely is that staying locked up in one’s own home, bolting the door, and nailing it shut, does not help at all.  Doing your shopping at two in the morning at the all-night supermarket, only interacting with other people via the internet, never opening one’s post ~ well that’s just pathetic.  However tempting it may be to utterly cut oneself off from the world, it’s not a good plan.

What I learned was;

  • Stop drinking.  Booze just makes everything much worse.
  • Don’t spend money you don’t have, and never borrow a penny.
  • Don’t gamble.  Gambling is for suckers and sluts.  The house always wins in the end.
  • Get out of bed, get showered, shaved, shampoo your hair, get dressed in clean clothes.
  • Junk all the rags you’ve been wearing for years, go shopping and buy some stylish new stuff.  Don’t shop in thrift / goodwill stores because you will look like a used tramp.
  • Get some fresh air and exercise, every single day.  Start by forcing yourself to walk for an hour a day.  Then force yourself to do the 10,000 steps a day thing, and maybe go to the gym 3 or 4 days a week.
  • Go travelling into the sunshine.
  • Talk to people.  Especially a guy should talk to women ~ and not in a creepy way.
  • Do something creative.  I write this blog.

Life can be good, no matter what has gone before.  But the thing is, you have to show up.  Mostly Life will not come to you, mostly you have to at least meet Life half way.

Today I am a very cool guy, living a great life.  And you know why that is?  Because I say it is.


jack collier


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22 responses

  1. Love your style of writing! Really enjoyed reading this 🙂 thanks.

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  2. You have many that like you jack thete comments are comforting kiddo


  3. ha, our thrift stores down here are filled with rich people’s clothes….every year they discard it all and buy new, some still have the price tags too….just saying 🙂

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    1. I know, I’ve been to thrift stores in Orange County and seen the stuff ‘rich people’ discard.
      I’ve been fucking dirt poor, and rich, and I would still never wear some other guy’s hand me downs.
      Not so keen on dating women who do.
      Just my mental block in play.
      ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. I didn’t mean rich in a bad way, I am comfortable now after working since I was young (and all of my life there after) and grew up in an age of poverty (in the country) where my mom made all of our clothing and received endless hand-me downs from my sister and which was then handed down to the next sister. I am blessed to work at a retail women clothing store so buy new for the most part, but our thrift stores put people to work and create jobs which is a good thing. Many women can’t afford new clothes….but I see your point about not dating someone who wears “used clothing”. What’s good for some may not be good for others. I won’t hold it against you 🙂 I do enjoy my thrift jewelry though 🙂 and my Halloween costumes are created from cast offs too 🙂

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        1. Having been dirt poor I a horror of having to go there again, or dating someone who delves into that marketplace. ❤

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  4. Perfection! You just put the Biggest smile on my face. 😊

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    1. WOW! That makes me so pleased. I have so much liked you for so long, and I can still make you smile. ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. Awe….you are so Sweet! I ain’t nothing special. Just a gal trying to live the best life I can. Finding joy through others successes is the BEST! Thank you for sharing. 💋

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        1. You are so very special. You are an inspiration to me.
          Anyhow I love sexy, articulate, submissive women.

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          1. Sexy, articulate and Submissive? I can identify myself as one of those, but the other two are much more difficult to swallow.

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  5. Love all your stuff and there is so much wisdom here that this needed to be written

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    1. Thank you. From you that’s a real compliment.

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  6. You are on a roll as you know what you don ‘t want or be. 👍😃

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    1. Darling, I have learned so much from you and your writing. ❤

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  7. I believe the most important survival skill is as simple as ‘accept don’t judge’. I mean oneself and others, but especially oneself. Accept your own thoughts, ideas, feelings, without judgement and that will change everything.

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    1. Muse and Goddess, thank you for your wise words. ❤

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  8. Being alone and being lonely are not the same thing. You can have a seemingly full busy life and still be lonely. The trick to being alone is to learn to like your own company. Life is so hectic these days many of us seem to have forgotten the skill of just being in our own space for a while. Ignore all the media crap that says you have to be out doing stuff with a gaggle of mates all the time. Savour the peace. Keep writing the blog. 🙂

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    1. Thank you Hawksword. ❤
      I used to hate my own company, being alone, bouncing off the walls of the garret.
      And this year I did thousands of air miles to a dozen places in the sun just not to be alone.
      You know what? I know now that I am a really cool guy, living a great life, and what could possibly be better than that? (Do not answer that rhetorical question.)
      Love as always,
      Jack ❤ ❤ ❤

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