Stop comparing yourself to other people, you’re supposed to be unique.
We are all very different. We each have our own unique personalities, our different wants, needs, dreams, and desires. And yet so often we try to ‘fit in’, trying to conform to the model that our families, friends, and co-workers expect us to be. We try to conform in work meetings, in social gatherings, and with our families. We seem to dress like others, speak like the people around us, and have similar opinions to our colleagues. We go to the same places, week after week, and year after year. In other words, ‘we play it safe’.
For many people there seems to be an inbuilt compulsion to be one of ‘the tribe’, as though being a loner or outsider is dangerous and wrong. But, being one of the tribe means that we have to give up some of our uniqueness and individuality. Worse than that, in every gathering, group, family, bunch of co-workers, there always seems to be a self-appointed leader who, by one means or another, makes the decisions and tells everyone else what to do.
Just how much of your freedom do you surrender when you are part of a group? How many of your unique wants, needs, dreams, and desires do you have to give up just to fit in?
For a week, when I was on vacation in Lanzerote, I became part of a small group. We ate together, talked, and drank together. And, that was pretty cool because it sucks to be completely alone when one is on vacation in an hotel in an utterly strange place.
But, I did go off on my own, a lot. And, while the others in the group shared the kind of secrets you only share with a stranger you are confident that you will never meet again, I talked a bit and shared bugger-all.
I prefer to be a loner, solitary, and unique. And, if my close friends don’t like that, well, ‘have a nice day’.
Some say that it’s only being utterly alone that lets a man know himself. And, that if you don’t like your own company, how can you possibly like anyone else? All I know is that sometimes I prefer to be uniquely alone.
I love the desert