Be Unique

Stop comparing yourself to other people, you’re supposed to be unique.

We are all very different.  We each have our own unique personalities, our different wants, needs, dreams, and desires.  And yet so often we try to ‘fit in’, trying to conform to the model that our families, friends, and co-workers expect us to be.  We try to conform in work meetings, in social gatherings, and with our families.  We seem to dress like others, speak like the people around us, and have similar opinions to our colleagues.  We go to the same places, week after week, and year after year.  In other words, ‘we play it safe’.

For many people there seems to be an inbuilt compulsion to be one of ‘the tribe’, as though being a loner or outsider is dangerous and wrong.  But, being one of the tribe means that we have to give up some of our uniqueness and individuality.  Worse than that, in every gathering, group, family, bunch of co-workers, there always seems to be a self-appointed leader who, by one means or another, makes the decisions and tells everyone else what to do.

Just how much of your freedom do you surrender when you are part of a group?  How many of your unique wants, needs, dreams, and desires do you have to give up just to fit in?

For a week, when I was on vacation in Lanzerote, I became part of a small group.  We ate together, talked, and drank together.  And, that was pretty cool because it sucks to be completely alone when one is on vacation in an hotel in an utterly strange place.

But, I did go off on my own, a lot.  And, while the others in the group shared the kind of secrets you only share with a stranger you are confident that you will never meet again, I talked a bit and shared bugger-all.

I prefer to be a loner, solitary, and unique.  And, if my close friends don’t like that, well, ‘have a nice day’.

Some say that it’s only being utterly alone that lets a man know himself.  And, that if you don’t like your own company, how can you possibly like anyone else?  All I know is that sometimes I prefer to be uniquely alone.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I love the desert

28 responses

  1. when you said unique did you mean this?

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    1. hmmmmm
      Fuck NO!
      ❤ ❤ ❤

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  2. Well i prefer being around people that crack me up and me them… being alone is okay for a while however, if u knew me you would agree it will send me a bit bat crazy 😜

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    1. ha ha ha ha
      you are already bat crazy and totally sexy.
      ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. Thank you … i think however u r right about the bat crazy bit lol ur funny

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  3. Totally like being alone. Totally like being with someone who gets my liking to be alone and will let that happen. The right group can be awesome, the wrong group a nightmare worth stepping out of. I hope you find that cool woman. I gave up on finding that cool man. ❤ ❤ ❤ ~Patti

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    1. What a shame that you have given up on finding a really cool guy.
      I’m pretty certain that genuine, cool, and honest dates are out there maybe neither of us has been lucky enough to find the right one just yet.
      Love
      Jack
      ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. I’m beginning to think you are right about one thing. That people like us who genuinely care draw those who are broken and just out to get whatever they can from others. Or I’m just drawn to the wrong sort and don’t know how to change that. I’m so freakin’ gun shy now after the last disaster even if a cool, really good guy came along, I’d be too afraid to let him get anywhere near me. I love how you are still open to finding that cool girl. ❤ ❤ ❤ ~Patti

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        1. Hey, I’ve found you. ❤ ❤ ❤

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          1. Aww, you are sweet. ❤ ❤ ❤

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  4. I also like doing things alone, sometimes prefer it. It gives me space to think and become refreshed. Then I feel more creatively energized afterwards, whereas being in a group of people makes me emotionally tired.

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    1. The wrong group is much worse than being alone. And, for me most groups are the wrong group. ❤ ❤ ❤

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  5. Oh yes and ppl ignore me

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    1. I’m too charismatic to be ignored forlong. 😉

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      1. Hmm, well, make ypirself present then you wont be that simple kiddo x

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  6. Being alone turns ppl including me a little bit cynical and opinionated and grumpy, a bit of a twatt (me included) and really its my own thoughts talks and at times i end up bored with myself!

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    1. I don’t get bored, just frustrated. ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. Me too oh well, fustration is evil

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  7. So yes married no kids? Ok ill take that! And being alone how long? Mr Happy 😎🤣🤩🤗

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    1. I’ve been alone too long. It’s time I brought a cool woman into my life again. ❤

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      1. Hmm, this could take you a while because I Am well taken lol hehe x

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      2. Shame, I’d love to date you. ❤ ❤ ❤

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  8. Oooowe Yes, Thats not answering the question thats saying a statement

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  9. Question Jacko, have u ever been married? Kids? Whats your story?

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    1. Yes, No, I’m a cool guy living a great life. ❤ ❤ ❤

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