Why Do I Care?

It is better to give than to receive ~ the hell it is…..

so, I went on some cool trips…..

Something is telling me that there is no mileage in being a caring guy.  What good does it do me to care about other people’s feelings, to worry if they are upset, and to give a damn if they are happy, or not?

I know that some people go through life not giving a thought about the feelings, or wellbeing of others, and all in all it doesn’t seem to do those uncaring folks any harm whatsoever.  As a matter of fact uncaring people tend to be richer and get more of what they want than do guys who actually give a fuck ~ such as me.

Uncaring people don’t devote their energies making sure that others are OK, instead they spend their time and energy getting what they want, and the devil take the consequences.  Uncaring guys don’t buy their female friends cool and expensive gifts, or pay to take them on vacation, or always pick up the tab in bars and restaurants.  Instead uncaring guys just fuck lots of women like animals.

So, somewhere, somehow, I’m doing something wrong.  I care about other people a lot, and what does that get me, not a  lot.

Some say that a leopard can’t change their spots.  And, that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.  All I know is that I’m going to stop giving if I get bugger all in return.

~

Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Cool hotels? A waste of money.

 

24 responses

    1. ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ 😉

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  1. Jack, I don’t think you are doing anything wrong. Those who don’t appreciate what you give/provide are the ones who are doing wrong. You can’t change how they feel, only they can change that part of themselves. You are a good man, Jack. Don’t let the uncaring and unappreciative tear you down. As my daughter is so fond of saying, “You do you”. If being you is helping others then why would you want to change that? That is a good thing. The hardest part is doing something for someone and letting go of any expectations of how they will receive or respond. Take care. ❤ ❤ ❤ ~Patti

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    1. Yep, good advice.
      I fall into the trap of expecting reciprocity, and that will never work out.
      What I need to do is go on being a cool guy living a great life, and take things as they come. Or not
      Thank you Sweetheart. ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. Definitely keep being a cool guy living a great life while learning to read the writing on the wall before the writing becomes a book. I can’t believe how many chapters were written on the wall before I took notice and stopped letting others take advantage. Take care, Jack.
        Love,
        Patti
        ❤ ❤ ❤

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        1. GOD!
          You give good advice.
          Thank you Patti.
          ❤ ❤ ❤

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          1. Years of experience dear and finally learning. You are most welcome. Send me a message if it actually works… lol ❤ ❤ ❤

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      2. Your thoughts worked for me,

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  2. I decided a little bit ago to take care of me and my family and everyone else can take care of them. I still help people too much though. It’s just how we were built I guess. But take care of you first (and have fun)!

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    1. That is good advice. ❤

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  3. Damn spell check don’t

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  4. We can but most doing either want to or have no idea what your refing too 😎🤩

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    1. You know, and that makes me feel good. ❤ 😉

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  5. Caring is good, taking on other people’s cares is not. I tend to do the latter more than the former and am learning to care and help, but not care and take over. It is not easy. Listening is caring. NOT doing is also caring. Allowing others to make their own mistakes or pay for their mistakes is a huge step in caring. Scary as hell, but sometimes, my Jack, we need to do it.

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    1. Changing the fundamental basis of who I am is pretty scary. But you’re right, we can’t live other peoples’ lives for them, and we can’t change anyone but ourselves. ❤

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      1. Another thing I’ve been learning is how much I enjoy people. It may be none of my business and everything I whine about in my blog will eventually resolve soon, but you know? I LIKE to write and it helps to make things make sense. And I love to read about others and their lives.
        And yours! xoxoxo

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        1. Time that we started emailing again. ❤

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          1. 🥰🥰🥰🥰

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  6. Same. I cared a lot about my friends and then I did one thing for me and BAM! I’m a bitch and two of them quit speaking to me. Fuck that noise. Going forward it’s me first except for my family which thankfully is small, kind, and sweet, unlike my shitty friends.

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    1. I wrote this after a long day in the sunshine, where I probably did more thinking than is good for me. But, there is a lot of truth in my words. 💖

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  7. Just for context was it an individual who caused this thinking or humans over time?

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    1. My rant was the culmination of years of being far to ‘nice’ for my own good. ❤

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      1. I think part of the problem is nice people tend to attract broken narcissistic people. I hope you find a happy medium. No one wants to be taken advantage of but being nice is a good quality I feel at the same time.

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  8. Lol say it … say it….. oh right u did lol

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