Have a Dream

If you can dream, and not make dreams your master…..

The day that we stop wanting, needing, wishing, and dreaming is the day we stop walking the warrior’s path, and begin to take that long dark road towards disappointment, despair, and death.  I know some people who seem to have no dreams, and I know a few people who are living in a dark nightmare. People with no dreams often also seem to be hell-bent on self-destruction through drink, drugs, gambling, self-harm, unsafe casual sex, suicide attempts….. I can recognise those people because I used to be one of them.

Some say that being negative, depressed, filled with character defects, is a condition to be pitied and that we should try to understand without condemning or blaming.

You know what?  I don’t agree with that idea at all.  Unless Life has thrown at you some terrible calamity, like having to live in a war zone, then if you’re an addict, an alcoholic, a hopeless gambler, chain smoker, depressed, suicidal, and hell-bent on being unhappy on the road to self-destruction ~ it is mostly your own fault.

There seems to be something in the subconscious mind of most people that says; ‘if I am really suffering I will get attention and love…..’  This is understandable because when we were at our most impressionable, young and vulnerable, then if we were suffering we would most likely get extra attention and love from our parents / principal carers.  Angst and shelf-harming practices such as alcoholism are learned behaviours.

On the other side of the coin, if as a child we were always bright, happy, full of inventive play and dreams, then mostly our parents would leave us alone.  They would leave us alone except for their own horrible negativity when we told them of our dreams, and they said; ‘you can’t possibly do that…..’

Dreaming of doing bigger, better, more exciting and more adventurous things, of meeting the partner of our dreams, or dreaming of having a wonderful life, is often driven from our own subconscious mind by the things we were told as an innocent child.

I know all this because it all happened to me, up to and including until a few weeks ago, when I had one of those revelatory moments we sometimes have in life, and I realised I could dream, and make my dreams come true.

So don’t give up on your dreams.  Don’t think you are a hopeless case.  You can be who you want to be and do whatever you want to do ~ stop believing that you’re trapped, and start wishing and dreaming again.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I’m dreaming of sunshine this Christmas

10 responses

  1. Live Life honest and true.. because it is harder to lie than it is to be honest .. in life.. nothing is harder than how you decide to live your life I guess … so be gentle on yourself and give yourself a praise for making it this far… embrace your life and those you choose to be part it… and laugh…. its the key to living a great happy lif…. laugh, love x

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    1. If you’re honest, then you don’t have to remember all those lies you’ve told. ❤

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      1. Well, my lies are mine and yes your right so hard work … what was this story, how did i do it, did it fit?, was he good at what he does?, what else oh , yes the best one is i cannot remember what i rated him as…. so yes always best to remember numbers, and what i said in full then no lies 🙂

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        1. that was a terrible revolting joke.. I try not to lie… i may make the lake a bit bigger oh and the fish could be bigger than it was … but, normally i try never to lie

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  2. Wise words indeed! Dreams are needed, and necessary, for life itself 🙂

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    1. The day we stop dreaming we start to die….. ❤

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  3. Beautifully worded JC, life is a challenge, and we can only do our best. Suffering and thinking u will get sympathy isnt really doing any kindness on yourself development nor is it attractive and lacks growth. So why do it? I have no idea as I dont want or expect anything that I can’t help another be them and that is more valuable than all the bullshit in life… growth and help u first so u can help others x

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    1. Don’t moan and don’t complain because it does you no good, and eventually other people will get pissed-off at you…..
      Thanks 😉

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  4. Loved this ..Really observant calculations

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    1. Thank you Sweetheart. ❤

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