Make your life a journey of being who you want to be.
Better than what? Being a better man than who? Just who am I if I am being a better man?
Well, I’ll tell you what Being the Better Man means to me. It means that today I will be cooler, kinder, more mindful, and more in touch with life than I was yesterday. And tomorrow I will be just a little bit better than I was today. Being the Better Man, the guy that makes other people feels good about themselves, is a journey, not a destination.
Being the Better Man means being better than I used to be, and NOT being better than other people. The only guy I am measuring myself against is myself.
Being a really cool guy, living a really great life, also means losing all those negative defects of character that blighted my life for all of my life. I have managed to lose jealousy, envy, judgmentalism, paranoia, spite, resentment, self-pity, egotism, impatience, insincerity, lust, anger….. And hey, I’m not perfect so all that crap still visits me from time to time, but the dark side doesn’t live with me anymore. Negatively is no longer the driving force of my ego.
All of that horrible and hurtful behaviour came from my childhood, when my innocent subconscious mind soaked up all the bad examples set by the adults around me. Particularly I learned from all the bad attitudes and behaviours and lovelessness exhibited by my parents. Not that my parents were particularly bad, but to a small child anger is a far more powerful emotion than love.
It turns out that it’s impossible for anyone to consciously control their thoughts, feelings, and behaviours twenty-four hours a day, (well the hours you are awake anyway). Ergo, what is needed is to implant newer and better thoughts, feelings, and behaviours into your subconscious mind, because your subconscious mind is actually running the show 95% of the time. And, you do that any way you can, any way that truly works for you; hypnosis, counselling, group therapy, Alcoholics Anonymous, Heart-Brain Harmony, acupuncture….. But not drugs, not under any circumstances. The instant you take any drug or medication you are not you anymore, you are just the drug.
But, if I can change my subconscious mind, then so can you.
self-talk is a very powerful thing