So, my friend and I have really fallen out

Perhaps every friendship needs an argument just to see how stable it is.

A serious long-distance argument blew up with my Californian friend and I yesterday ~ or the day before depending upon which time-zone you’re in.  This disagreement was / is so profound that it may prevent me from taking a trip to New Mexico in November.  This dispute may be so serious that it will poison our relationship for good and all.

And yet, seemingly it’s all about nothing.

My friend likes watching far-out science fiction shows on Netflix.  Alone among my friend’s family so it seems does her adult nephew.

Ergo my friend announced that she and her nephew were going to have regular Friday evening TV sessions watching weird science fiction.

Somehow, to me, it seems uncomfortably unacceptable for her to regularly spend a lot of time alone with her young, married nephew on regular TV ‘dates’ in her home.  And, I made the mistake of telling my friend of my feelings.

She said; ‘…..So you think me and my nephew are weird…..  Is that what you’re saying?  That’s really sick…..’

And that’s where we’re at now.  Not talking with one another enough to sort anything out.

Perhaps what is odd and unacceptable to my generation of Englishmen is normal in California where the culture is totally different from here.  I still don’t like it.

Am I utterly and completely wrong?  You tell me ~ please.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

perhaps I’m doomed to for ever being alone and lonely

 

25 responses

  1. Hmmm. Been thinking on your friend’s response. Since it was so volatile, could she be feeling just a tad guilty about the thoughts she has about her Nephew? And have you picked up on that, eliciting your jealous/pious response?
    There is no smoke without fire. And I think nerves are raw on both sides. Needs talking out.
    🤔

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    1. Right now the whole issue has been swept under the carpet. However, I strongly suspect that there is more to this than meets the eye. I have no doubt that it will all resurface again sooner rather than later.
      Thank you for helping me to begin to sort things out.
      ❤ ❤ ❤

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  2. I didn’t say you were wrong.. I just said, my comments in jest, if it was me, I would say the same thing, shit hun your tv shows are shit…. and Id rather stay home.. that is what I would say…..:)

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  3. It is a bit of a double standard, I agree. A lot of people think you are wrong, some (like me) agree with you. You won’t find me sitting around with my adult nephews watching tv. Then again, I don’t really watch tv so that would be weird, wouldn’t it? 🤣Hugs Jack, everything will work out how it is supposed to.

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    1. Thanks. Most people who’ve commented think I’m wrong and hateful. But, I think I’m just an genuine Englishman with an old-fashioned sense of what is and isn’t ‘proper’. ❤

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  4. Now here Jack, I’m just gonna see if I can get a different response than every one you gave on the comments, you’re the best, you’re human and every little things gonna be alright. Don’t be so hard on yourself, look at the root of why you think it would be wrong for her to do this, why it ranckled you so? That’s the best way to learn from a mistake. You are a warrior sir, never forget. Peace, love and blessings, K
    Binge watching hurts your eyes…..better to get out and enjoy nature 🙂

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    1. Thank you ever so much. ❤
      Deep down, the reason it felt wrong for my friend to spend time alone with her young adult nephew is that it would feel utterly wrong for me to spend a lot of time alone in my apartment with my young adult niece. But then I'm a staid, stuffy, old-fashioned Englishman. ❤ ❤

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  5. Let it chill out and everyone calm down. An aunt can bond with her nephew by doing things they enjoy. But to be fair you are at the scene and I am not. So..you know best.

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    1. Thank you. I made a mistake. I was wrong. I will apologise and make amends as best as I can.

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      1. A true gentleman!🤗💕⚘

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        1. A real English Gentleman shouldn’t have fouled things up in the first place. But, I try to be good, always….. ❤ ❤ 😉

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  6. I don’t see how weird it is. They are family. If a married man In general had a regular date with a non family member that might be but not being family.

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    1. Thank you. I made a mistake. I was wrong. I will apologise and make amends as best as I can.

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  7. Honestly, speaking as a fellow Englishman, I don’t think it’s weird at all. They’re family after all and simply spending regular time together enjoying a shared interest 🤷🏽‍♀️

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    1. Thank you. I made a mistake. I was wrong. I will apologise and make amends as best as I can.

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  8. To be quite honest, you’re in the wrong.
    She and her nephew share a common interest and are watching television together.
    Whatever your problem, it is directly related to your perception of the world.
    Where is the enlightenment of which you write?
    I know I’ll be of unpopular opinion, but I don’t care.
    You asked.
    I answered.
    Get it together, Jack before you push every single person out of your life and use that to prove to yourself you’re completely unlovable.

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    1. Thank you. I made a mistake. I was wrong. I will apologise and make amends as best as I can.

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  9. 😂 nice read❤️

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  10. Define weird? Did you say… FFS your not watching that shit? or did you say, As long as you don’t put on sky fi shit? or did you say you two are odd balls and a little bit weird watching that crap that I hate to death? so JC7 which did you really say??? Frankly, any of the above I would say and I don’t find that at all offensive 🙂

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  11. LOL, so, your foot got in the way of your mouth???

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    1. Thank you. I made a mistake. I was wrong. I will apologise and make amends as best as I can.

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      1. Well, what is done is done my friend….if she is a mate she will forgive you if not .,.. well, life is just that i guess in other words not much of a mate

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      2. Jesus, what are you saying.. own it.. his taste in TV is shit.. stand by your words… oh boy… remove this post respons immediatly… sheeesh

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      3. Your in USA i suggect you take the 5th

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