Wisdom and Courage

Knowledge, intuition, and self-confidence aren’t always enough.

Yesterday I reacted very badly to what I felt was negative criticism, from a very close friend, of some posts I had recently written.  I took the critical comments from my friend both personally and probably more negatively than she meant to sound.  And yet, looking back, I still feel that her comments about my blog were a thinly veiled attack on me, which was really about something else entirely, something else I had done.  It would be nice to know what…..

Yesterday, I broke two of my own rules;

Rule #9  Trust in your own opinions, but always be prepared to listen to the other person’s point of view.

and

Rule #10  Be accepting, understanding, and compassionate.

It’s all very well my not liking what people do or say, but I should have the wisdom and courage to accept and understand that her thoughts and opinions are not my thoughts and opinions.  I should be able to rise above the shit that life and other people throw at me from time to time.  I should not be dragged down into the mire by other people.  I should make a better choice than to feel so hurt and distressed by the things others may say to me.

If a man is going to let his spirit truly fly then he needs the self-confidence to spread his wings.  Sometimes a man also needs wisdom to make better decisions and wiser choices if he is going to realise his potential and manifest his true destiny.  If he is going to walk the warrior’s path to spiritual prosperity and inner peace, then a man needs to walk that path without scepticism, fear, or self-doubt.

I know that things do not get better overnight, that this is going to be a step by step, iterative process, and that to make positive changes in my life I first of all have to show up for life and actually have the courage to make some changes.  Not every choice I make is going to be a good choice, but a golden rule is that if things aren’t working out, then do something else instead.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.  ~Einstein

I also have some new tools to help me; I am learning the power of truth, mindfulness, self-care, meditative affirmations and mandalas.  I know that I need to show more gratitude and care through my actions for those who matter most to me ~ including myself.   I know I need to listen to the guidance of those who care for me because they can show me the path I need to take.  I know that I shouldn’t listen when others are attacking me out of their own personal inadequacies.

There needs to be new challenges, new rituals, and new guidelines in my life.  I need to ask a lot of myself, and of those close to me, but I need to be patient, mindful, and caring too.

To make wise choices I need to consider the past, the present, the future, and look at potentialities with some wisdom and reasonableness.  What I need to lose is anger, bitterness, judgementalism, and paranoia.

I have made some changes, and taken some decisions.  I’ve joined a different gym, and I’m going there and exercising regularly.  I’m going to the pool regularly.  I walk everywhere, I’ve changed my diet, and I’m getting better rest and sleep.  I am going to travel more, I’ve just got back from Turkey, and in a little while I’m going to Crete.  After that, well if you can’t find me, I’m on vacation.

Some say that there are wonderful, warm, loving, powerful, indulgent, and courageous energies in the universe.  And, that all men seek and desire; love, happiness, grace, beauty, charm, and pleasure.  All that I know is that I have to act quickly to find my true life path.

The Best is yet to come ~ I may have seen the sun but I’ve never seen it shine, and now it’s raining in my heart.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

the road is long, and mostly lonely

 

 

14 responses

  1. That is a good approach Jack.
    I think through my life’s low spots I have always looked at them pragmatically. I tend to count my few blessings and try to ignore the bad stuff a bit more. I feel I am OK if I have food, water, shelter and warmth…I can survive. The rest I can work on in my head and heart. I think (and this is very hard to do) detaching oneself from outcomes (allow serendipidy to take place) is healthiest for one’s heart and mind. It is what most religions strive to do in one form or another. If you are detached and your happiness comes from within, no outward force can harm you.

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    1. Sometimes it’s hard for a results-driven guy like me to detach from the outcome.
      It’s hard for me to stop trying to shape the world and everyone in it to the way I want things to be.
      le siiighhhh ❤

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      1. Yes, I know. Detachment is a very difficult journey away from our animalistic conditioning. We are hard wired to be competitive and reactionary to all situations. None of us are infallible in that regard Jack. We can but try.

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        1. By the way Jack, I have noticed a sharp increase in fear and negativity… It’s present in many blogs, it’s present in my friends and family, and it is present in my own life. You are experiencing a change in energies that has caught the world in its grasp. You need to protect yourself by loving yourself, no matter what. You must recognise yourself, warts and all, and love yourself exactly as you are. It is your best way forward.

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  2. After years of working with people, I’m convinced that we all have our own answers within, and much can be accomplished by simply tuning in(ward) and listening to one’s gut – which usually steers one in the right direction.

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    1. I agree with you ~ we usually know the answers to the most complicated questions, and it’s just instinct, (backed up by a lifetimes knowledge an experience).
      ❤ ❤ ❤

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  3. All criticism can be constructive criticism, it depends on what you do with it. It doesn’t mean that hard words don’t hurt. Just keep trying to apply it to positive change. That’s all you can do .

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  4. This is powerful to read. Changing is so hard to do, people can be so unhelpful. In the last weeks I’ve been learning to respond instead of react. I’m rather good at react….I think you might be, as well! Responding takes more time and thought. Unless the car in front of you with the baby strapped inside is on fire, response is a better thing to do.
    Thinking of you more than you can imagine! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

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    1. In my experience, the people who should care the most, and be the most supportive, are the ones who will most try to hold you back.
      Thank you for thinking of me. ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. I’m pushing you..no. not pushing. I’m cheering for and walking on your path as well!

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  5. Everyone should live their life in their own way and if you find the incentive to reach you, let your decisions be what lead you to it. You can not please everyone.

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    1. Maybe you can only ever please some of the people, some of the time.

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  6. bloggerfromthebronx

    I admire your courage, Jack. Enjoy your travels and thank you for sharing.

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    1. And thank you for your kindness.

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