When is literary criticism a personal attack?

Nobody is perfect, even Shakespeare got his share of criticism.

A very close friend has just told me that I shouldn’t share my negative thoughts and feelings in this blog.  She told me that I should always be positive in the things I write.  She told me that I shouldn’t share so much of what’s really going on with me.  She told me that even when I feel like shit, I shouldn’t write about that.

The things she said didn’t feel like legitimate and constructive criticism.  To me, at the time, (a few short minutes ago), it felt like a personal attack.  It seemed as though my friend had a hidden agenda, and was ‘getting at me’ about the things I wrote on July 26th, 27th, and 28th when what she really wanted to say was something else all together.

She is entitled to her opinion.  And I could be wrong about everything.

But this is my blog, and I was writing about what’s been going on with me.  As far as I am concerned I can write whatever I want, as long as it isn’t a personal attack on someone else, it isn’t obscene, and it isn’t unethical.

I think it’s perfectly acceptable for me to say that I hadn’t really been operating at the very top of my game.

You know what?  I had been feeling pretty good today, but that conversation with my friend, about me writing posts entitled; Worrying About Life, Feeling very ill, and I have my problems, has put me right back to square one.

So, now I feel like shit again, with a big dollop of annoyance and hurt thrown in.

I guess that I’m now supposed to turn this whole tirade of hurt into something positive.  So, I will leave you with this;

Why hoard your troubles?  They have no market value, so just throw them away.  ~  Ann Schade

That’s pretty positive.  And, this is a nice picture.

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jack collier             jackcollier7@talktalk.net

29 responses

  1. Jack, our blogs are an outpouring of what we think. Even if someone posts a factual type of blog, they will cherry pick and put their slant on it.
    I don’t know your friend, but it sounds (if she too writes a blog) is somewhat fake and disingenuous in her approach. The best blogs that I follow are the ones that talk about how humanity deals with its environment. The blogs that are just positive, fluffy and full of cute kittens to ogle are a bit of a waste of time. They do nothing to make one feel that they have learned something. By sharing ourselves (positive or negative) we learn so much and I think you have enough followers to know that you are doing something good for them. Be yourself. You are fine just the way you are.❤💕

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    1. Thanks Colette. ❤ ❤ ❤
      I've worked hard at being honest, open, and the real me. I don't think I'm going to go back to just being a shadow of myself.

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      1. Indeed. Your friend is fooling herself and no one else. Speak your truth and you will come to know yourself better Jack. Your friend may never know herself.❤

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  2. please please keep on just the way you have been.. 🙏🏻
    i am really growing fond of you and look forward to your posts daily!!! ❤️ never let negative energy kill your vibe! keep on keeping on.. pretty please 😘😉

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    1. Kitten, I like you too. ❤ ❤ ❤
      All I am going to do is try and make myself, and my blog, just a little bit better every day…… better than things were yesterday.
      And I am so glad that you look forward to my posts. ❤

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      1. that is wonderful news!!!! 🖤

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        1. I am a cat person.
          I love cats, and I adore kittens.
          ❤ ❤ ❤

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  3. You know what you heard. And as for the blog – it’s so good, please keep writing as you do. It’s thought-provoking and helpful. Just my two cents. 🙂

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    1. Thanks. ❤ ❤ ❤
      That's what I intend to do ~ just keep on writing as I was writing, but try to make my posts better as time goes by.

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  4. When is literary criticism a personal attack?

    Literary criticism usually limits itself to the subject of the criticized object and avoids shooting upon its messenger. Now when messenger = subject, then criticism will of course be experienced as a personal attack. That’s the risk one takes when posting details about personal life and feelings upon a public forum.

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    1. You weren’t there, so you don’t know what was said to me. To me it was very much an attack on me.

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  5. You are not “too sensitive and thoughtful for your own good”.
    And unless you’re just fishing for comments to make you feel all tingly inside…
    This is your blog, your thoughts, your words.
    You do you.
    And, if I were you, I might seriously consider to whom I apply the word ‘friend’.

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    1. Robynbird, my friend, as always your thoughtful comments are apposite, correct, and utterly to the point.
      As it goes, when I wrote the 3 posts in question, I really wasn’t doing so well.
      Thank you. ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. Without being true to yourself, walking the warrior’s path is pointless.
        Be you. Express you.
        You know what I always say the naysayers can do…

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  6. Keep on being real. Tell it like it is.

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    1. Don’t worry, I won’t be censored.

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  7. We all have our dark sides, Jack, and we all get kind of down from time to time… To pretend we didn’t would be fake and inauthentic. I will take truthful and honest over fake and inauthentic any day 🙂 Besides, if we don’t find a way to express the negativity, it gets repressed, and that is not good. Keep on blogging, my friend! Your words do us all good.

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    1. Thank you Christine. ❤ ❤
      And yet here I am, at the murky end of the swamp again.

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      1. It happens. Hang in there… 🙂

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  8. […] I reacted very badly to what I felt was negative criticism, from a very close friend, of some posts I had recently written.  I took the critical comments […]

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  9. I believe someone’s personal blog is their own territory to voice whatever opinion they wish. Would you mind a bit of advice from a lady in California? Don’t be so sensitive to what other people think or say. Here in the States a popular saying amongst the young generation today is “you do you.” Basically it means be happy being yourself, as long as you’re not hurting anyone else.

    Why live your life being so caught up in what others think about you? Most folks today are uneducated, uncaring, ignorant, rude idiots who only care about themselves and their own opinions. Therefore, one should live a happy healthy life trying to ignore the nincompoops and naysayers! Go back to your warrior’s path. Stay strong. If someone doesn’t like what you say, they’re free to move on.

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    1. Thank you for your advice. Californian ladies are often so wise.
      I think I reacted because the criticism was so unexpected and came so far out of left field.
      Perhaps it’s time I moved on too.

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  10. Your Blog is your OWN. When we let others opinions determine what we write then as writers we are lost. Re critique of others writing , I feel that is appropriate in writing/poetry workshops but not really here. People are free to read or ignore. Have a lovely day.

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    1. Thank you. ❤ ❤ ❤
      And now I feel bad that I took her comments so seriously and so personally.
      right now I'm suddenly having a shitty day.

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      1. No! That wasn’t the plan at all. ♥️ 😊

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        1. Your comments were thoughtful and supportive. ❤ ❤ ❤
          I mean I'm having a shitty day because I don't understand the negative criticisms from my friend.

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  11. What you say and what you think is always two different things. Friends on blog who don’t like your blogs that what unfriend button and block button for. Your friend not so much friends . Your blogs are great and sod what anybody thinks. You write from the heart that is art. Wish I could write good as you . You teach many people thing or 2 about writing.
    You continue to write how you like . Any negative responses about your blog close ears . They can fk off far i’m Concerned 😈I love reading your blogs . Carry on jack 😊

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    1. Thank you. ❤ ❤ ❤
      I may just be far too sensitive and thoughtful for my own good.

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