Being Confident

If you confidently believe in yourself, you can do anything.

Sometimes our lives can suck, and having a life filled with problems and pain can leach any self-confidence you ever had right out of you.  But, without self-confidence we are useless in life.  Without self-confidence we become diffident, hesitant, inward-looking, and pretty crappy at everything we might try to do.  Without self-confidence we worry, fret, and fail.

In fact, without self-confidence we may not want to do anything at all, just in case it all goes badly wrong.  Not doing, not turning up for life, sitting alone and lonely in your own space ~ well that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and destroys whatever vestige of confidence you may have had left.

Remember this truth; To be good at what you do, you first have to do.

Self-confidence is a skill, and like any other skill it can be learned, and relearned.  Fear of failure is a skill, stop learning and relearning it.

Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.  ~  Theodore Roosevelt

The road towards true self-confidence has only a few steps along the way.

  1. Know who you are.  Self-awareness is something we should all work at, and the more you work at it, the more you will know your true self.  Hey, I know exactly who I am, my name is Jack Collier.
  2. Be comfortable and happy with who you are ~ and if you’re not happy with yourself, then work at changing yourself to be a better version of you.  Lose that weight, exercise and get fitter, spend time on personal grooming, dress well in clothes that flatter you, go back to school…..  The only person we can really change is ourselves.
  3. Be OK with what you do.  So your job sucks, and the people at work treat you like shit, so look for a better and better-paid job.  You owe no loyalty whatsoever to the people you work for, nor the people you work with.  Don’t just quit your job, instead use your time at work and their facilities as assets in your job-search.  Better still, start working for yourself.  The really successful people in life are never wage-slaves.
  4. Be cool with where you are heading.  You may not even know where you’re going, but go somewhere.  The longest journey begins with the first baby steps, and you won’t know if you’re going in the wrong direction if you’re going nowhere.  I know where I’m going ~ for a start I’m going to leverage this JackCollier7 blog into a best-selling self-improvement book.
  5. Do not ever give up after one failure.  In fact, do not accept failure.  Everybody fails from time to time, mostly because other people aren’t smart enough to see just how good you really are.  JK Rowling, the best selling author of the Harry Potter books, was turned down by 12 publishers before Bloomsbury picked up the rights to her first manuscript for just £1,500.  Today JK Rowling is worth around $1 billion.
  6. Remember that nobody will believe in you unless you believe in you.  If you don’t believe in yourself, then act like hell and fake self-belief.
  7. Remember that life is filled with opportunities and choices, never stop looking and learning to find the opportunities that enhance your self-belief, self-confidence, self-worth, and self-empowerment.  The more choices you have, the more self-motivated you will become.

You are the Captain of your own ship, and you are the master of your fate, so step up and impress yourself, impress everyone around you, and if they aren’t utterly impressed by the new self-confident you, then move on because it’s their loss, not yours.

Some say that before embarking on anything new, you must first believe that you can do it.  And, that you must honestly ask yourself if whatever you’re going to do will work.  All I know is that I ask myself if it’s going to be worth it.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

always be open, honest, and self-aware

you can’t get to the moon if you don’t try

15 responses

  1. Comfortable is never truly comfortable – because we know we are limiting ourselves and not living up to our full potential. Growing is uncomfortable, but worth it. Great post! 🙂

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    1. Thanks. It took me a while to get back out of my own comfort zone, but it’s pretty exciting out here in the real world. ❤

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  2. More words of wisdom!

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  3. I really liked the focus on doing in this article. Doing is movement and therefore life. Stagnation is being idle, not engaging life, and therefore death. The greatest of journeys never begin unless that first step is taken and then followed by the others needed to reach the dream.

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    1. I know, from bitter personal experience, that sitting inactive inside one’s own comfort zone does nothing good at all. It may feel safe and secure, but it will leach the life out of you ~ with just as much certainty as that night follows day.
      Thank you for your cool comment.

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  4. Oh yes Jack! As long as you do not have any expectations of others! 🌱

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    1. It would all fall apart if I had unreasonable expectations of another ~ expectations that were not going to me met.
      That’s happened, of course, and I fell apart, of course.
      ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. You are a better person for it! 🌱💕💕💕

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  5. I’ll need to read this over when I’m more awake— good stuff. As usual. xooxoxoxox

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    1. Thanks Kris. No worries.
      Lots of Hugs. ❤ ❤ ❤

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  6. Fighting words… Good to see you lifting yourself Jack.

    To be confident, one has to face down rejection, look it in the eye, and tell it that it is wrong and you wish to pass. Just walk right past rejection, wherever it comes from. That is self belief, and will carry you further than anything else I know!

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    1. Everyone that rejects you, or me, just doesn’t know how good we are. ❤

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  7. it is true, but isn’t it very difficult thing to achieve… especially for introverts who find their hearts popping out the moment they are out of their comfort zones !!

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    1. To be good at what we do, we first have to do things.
      And, to live a great life, you first have to show up.
      If you struggle, then just fake being confident.
      You can get out of your comfort zone. ❤ ❤

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