Achieve your dream life by rejecting pressure entirely.
Fear is mostly learned.
Low self-esteem is learned.
The experience of sin is learned.
Fear, expectations, obligations, shame, negativity, the notion of sin, anxiety, nervousness, shyness, cynicism…, plague most of us, and none of these are real, these are just emotions, these are things that we have allowed others to teach us.
A lot of our negative character traits are things we have learned through life; arrogance, addictions, alcoholism, brutality, complacency, criminality, dependency, envy, greed, intolerance, jealousy, lying, paranoia, promiscuity, timidity, vindictiveness….. We are not born with these character defects, we had to learn them, and they are not real, even though they feel very real.
Life is too short to spend in negativity. So I have made a conscious effort not to be where I don’t want to be. ~ Hugh Dillon.
Our thoughts, feelings, emotions, feel incredibly real. My own thoughts, feelings, and emotions were very real to me, and they ruled my life.
I could become very paranoid, jealous, and angry about my partner’s past ~ and that is insane. The past cannot hurt me, and there’s nothing I can do about it anyway.
We should not be a product of our negative thinking. We are not our thoughts, feelings, emotions, preconceptions, and assumptions. If we wish it we have free will.
Other things bothered me a lot; cyclists, bad drivers, charities, environmentalists, the medical profession, people in uniform, politicians, the stupid and the lazy people in this world….. I spent a lot of my time being annoyed, frustrated, and bad-tempered.
What I needed was a new way of looking at the world, a new way of dealing with all the bad stuff that was ruling and ruining my life.
What I decided was that, deep down, I didn’t actually care about any of this stuff, in exactly the same way that I don’t care one jot for the idea of Catastrophic Anthropogenic Climate Change, (man-made global warming). What I decided was all this stuff that had been bothering me, all the people and organisations that had been bothering me, could just Fuck Off.
I no longer give all this pernicious negativity permission to affect my life.
Now I can tell the World to; ‘Fuck Off and Have a Nice Day. Don’t Let the Door Hit You on the Way Out, and Please Don’t Keep In Touch.’
It’s a very empowering attitude. Obviously I don’t often actually say that out aloud, but just thinking it generates a very liberating feeling.
Try it. If something or someone upsets you, mentally tell yourself that you don’t give a fuck. If negative thoughts, feelings, emotions are plaguing you, then mentally tell yourself that you don’t give a fuck.
If some insane attitude or weird preconceptions of your own are ruining your life, just tell yourself that you don’t give a fuck, that you don’t even want to know.
Some say that we should be caring and compassionate, that we should give until it hurts. And, that we should accept the pain of the world and everyone in it. All I know is that I don’t give a fuck.
don’t let other people control your life