If you expect nothing you cannot be disappointed.
In the morning the Sun will rise, I will get on with Life as best as I can, and around 12 hours later the Sun will go down again. The weather men say that here in Southern California it will be warm and sunny tomorrow. I fully expect and believe that these things will happen. Based on everything I know these are reasonable expectations.
However, along with most people I have ever met, I am also prey to many unreasonable expectations. I expect everyone to be polite and courteous. I expect everyone to always act with temperance, reasonableness, self-control, and self-discipline. I expect my Government to act for the benefit of the majority of the people. I expect to go on improving in body, mind, and spirit. I expect my ‘friend’ to share my enjoyment of life and fall in with my desires.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you’re not in this world to live up to mine. – Bruce Lee
These above are not really expectations; these are wants, needs, and things I would like to happen. And you know what? In the broad scheme of things, what I would like matters little to anyone but me. In the broad scheme of things nobody cares what I want, need, desire, and expect.
Nobody and nothing is perfect, and yet, deep down, I expect some things to be perfect; especially when it comes to interpersonal relationships. That’s never going to happen.
When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they truly are. – Donald Miller
Some say that if you accept that your glass will never be more than half-full then you cannot be disappointed. And that, Life is nothing but pain, toil, sweat, hardship, and difficulties. All I know is that there are some things I am not prepared to accept.
If nothing changes, then nothing changes.
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. – Einstein
We may have wants, needs, desires, dreams, and expectations, but none of those ephemeral things will ever happen unless we work toward them. And, the first thing to do is to leave behind us the stuff in our life that just doesn’t work, will never truly work, and will never come up to our expectations. Why go on flogging a dead horse?
If any of you have ever attended a 12 step meeting, or even otherwise, then you may be familiar with the Serenity Prayer. I have my own version;
Grant me the courage to leave behind the things I cannot change,
The strength to change the things I can,
And, the wisdom to know the difference.
This presupposes that I am in control of my own destiny – but if I am not, then what is the point of it all?
We are each entitled to have expectations. The mark of a truly enlightened person is that they act reasonably if their expectations are not met.
Part of being reasonable means having sound judgment. It is always my hope that my judgment is sound enough to tell me what I should just leave behind, and what I should try to change.
I expect that I will get it wrong a lot of the time.
Opportunity may only knock once…