It never rains in Southern California.
Last night it rained here in Orange County. It rained hard, it rained for a long time, and it was decidedly chilly; which is a change from the perfect weather I’ve come to expect here. In SoCal I have come to expect perfectly blue skies and perfectly warm sandy beaches. But then, nothing is ever truly perfect, not even you or I, and it is our own imperfections that make us who we are.
Each person is unique, and each of us bears the scars of our past, suffers the stresses of the present, has hopes and fears for all possible futures. Each of is a kaleidoscope of conflicting thoughts, emotions, and character traits. All of us has character defects and personality problems to one degree or another.
Each of us has been hurt, suffered, tried and failed, and had Pyrric victories. Each of brings into the present physical, mental, psychological, emotional, and spiritual wounds from the past. Right now all of us has difficulties to overcome or tolerate. We may have emotional, financial, medical, relationship, or spiritual problems; or all of those and more.
But then, we are not perfect.
There is no cure for imperfection. There is no mileage in blaming others for our pain, problems, and thwarted desires. And, yet we do blame our partners, lovers, ‘friends’, employers, the government….. for our own imperfections. We become angry, depressed, frustrated, impulsive, jealous, judgmental, and sometimes dangerous. We criticise and blame.
Why do you look at the mote in your brother’s eye, and pay no attention to the beam in your own eye? – Matthew 7.5
Some say that Life is difficult and painful. And that it is only through suffering that we can ever hope to achieve enlightenment. All I know is that it has been my own wants, lusts and desire for instant gratification that has caused my problems and pain.
The way to freedom from suffering and pain is through self-control in body mind and spirit. Striving for perfection is to chase a wraith… an illusion. Better to strive to grow, to develop and evolve, to be a ‘better’ person today than we were through all of our yesterday’s. Better yet to walk the warrior’s path with grace, honour, honesty, and openness towards an enlightened future.
I strive each day to be more accepting, less judgmental, more honest and open, kinder and more understanding than I was in the past. I try each day to be fitter and healthier in body, mind, and spirit.
But then, I am not perfect.
if I am not careful I can become Mr. Hyde