On Offending People.

I you’re not offending someone, you’re not doing your job.

Yesterday evening I started to write a post for today ~ or rather I began 3 different posts, and scrapped all of them.  All three of those posts would have offended some of the people who follow my blog, and some of my close friends, so I junked all of those questionable posts.

I believe in absolute freedom of expression.  Everyone has a right to be offended.  ~  Taslima Nasrin

If you have followed my blog for any length of time you will know that I don’t shy away from offending some people, but the people I’m happy to offend deserve whatever they get, and more.  I have no problem being offensive to Bankers, Politicians, Government Officials ~ and on Monday of this week I was offensive toward the disgusting sex-pests, perverts, paedophiles, and rapists who work for some ‘Big Charities’ such as Oxfam.

I’m not happy to offend the innocent who just happen to do, (or have done), some things I profoundly disagree with. That would be cruel, hurtful,  hypocritical, mendacious, and vicious of me.

I try to practice ‘mindfulness’ every time I encounter a stressful feeling or negative emotion, of I am challenged by my own anger.  Mindfulness grounds me in the present and stops me obsessing about the past.  I can look at my feelings as though I am an uninvolved observer, rather than being at the centre of the maelstrom. That way I can act and react in a balanced and thoughtful way.

So, instead of what I intended to write about, which in each of the three cases would have been stressful, challenging, negative, and emotive ~ I’m going to tell you how I came to the decision that writing about this stuff would have been a bad idea.

These days I try to live a kind, mindful, self-aware, and spiritual existence ~ bringing inner peace and happiness to myself and those around me.  Offending innocent people for no good reason than my own instant gratification is not living an ethical and spiritual existence.

I try to be accepting, understanding, and supportive to those around me.  I do my best to live a mindful life.  I work very hard at walking the warrior’s path to ultimate truth and inner peace.  I profoundly believe  that as I give to the world, so I shall receive in return.

Ergo, publishing a blog which I knew would upset and hurt some people, which would make them think that I was actually attacking them, was not who I am trying to be today.  In any event, I am not perfect within myself.

When you are offended at any person’s fault, turn to yourself and study our own failings.  Then you will forget your anger.  ~  Epictetus

I want to make good changes in my relationships, my behaviours, habits, and routines ~ attacking someone, or a group of people, is neither good nor positive.  So, I decided that I just wasn’t going to do it.

And you know what?  I feel better for not publishing any of those three negative, emotive, and judgmental posts.

The posts I had half written, and then trashed were about Borderline Personality Disorder, casual sex with strangers, and the medicinal use of marijuana.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

8 responses

  1. I have written so many posts and deleted because I’m afraid of offending someone. Mostly the posts were out of anger, hurt and once I wrote it out I felt better I didn’t have to post.
    It’s sad we have to be afraid of what we write, because others might be offended. But at the same time it is the right thing to do by not posting.
    Great post 🤗😉😘

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    1. Rebecca, I know exactly what you mean… But sometimes I find myself thinking; ‘Just publish and be damned……’
      Stay well Sweetheart. ❤ ❤ ❤

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  2. strong my friend, a very strong thing to do, keep on keeping on ❤ ❤

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  3. Bravo!
    The importance of this growth is not lost on those that care for you.

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    1. Thank you Robnynbird.
      ❤ ❤ ❤

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  4. You are doing great and I think your true friends will always understand without being offended. Freedom of speech is real and I know you believe in it. There is a thin line between being mindful for others, but still being able to speak your mind vs. suppressing it. I would have loved to hear your opinion and you can chat with me anytime. 🙂

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    1. Thank you Rhapsody. There’s a fine line between my expressing my honest opinions, and writing something that is hurtful. I’m happy that I can see that line, and that I will only ever cross it again for a very good reason.
      I would love to chat with you. ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. I totally understand and we each decide what feels right for us at any given moment. Your gut is always right. Hugs my friend. xoxoxo

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