Anger Is A Choice

Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame.

There seems to be a lot of angry people in the world today, mostly angry that recent events didn’t turn out the way they wanted, and the future is looking very different to the way they wished it to be.

Angry people are not always wise.  ~  Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

trump_my_other_plane_is_airforceoneEven very recent events are beyond our control.  The past is the one part of our lives over which we have absolutely no influence, none whatsoever.  No amount of regret, bad feelings, or anger can ever change what has already happened.  All that anyone has any control over is what they do right now, and what they do right now will shape the future.  If people choose to feel angry about the past, then they are denying themselves the opportunity to enjoy the present, and thereby create a better future.

Life is difficult and painful.  This is the first of The Four Noble Truths.  Things often don’t turn out the way we would like them to.  Dwelling on the past and being angry about it isn’t necessarily the best way to make either the present or the future a better and happier place.

We don’t have to get angry, and we don’t have to stay angry.  There are other and more positive emotions we can create from our anger.  More often than not our anger does not get us what we want.  Anger often turns inward and makes angry people bitter, twisted, and ineffectual.

Anger is an acid than can do more harm to vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.  ~  Mark Twain

We shouldn’t suppress our anger, but there are positive and constructive alternatives to aggressively inflicting our anger on other people.  Intentionally hurting other people is almost universally a bad thing.  All to often angry people won’t listen to calmer counsel.  All too often angry people will not listen to opposing viewpoints.  All to often angry people try to shout their opponents down.

If we don’t believe in freedom of expression for people we despise, we don’t believe in it at all.  ~  Noam Chomsky

We can use anger to spur ourselves on to greater and better things.  The energy, the adrenalin, the drive our anger arouses in us can be used to make positive and healing changes to the world around us.  We all need to learn to tame our temper.

The best fighter is never angry.  ~  Lao Tzu

We don’t always have to get mad.  We don’t always have to get even.  We don’t even have to tell other people that they are wrong, stupid, ignorant, uneducated, ungentlemanly, and childish.  We can keep our opinions mostly to ourselves, and instead work quietly for the greater good.

We may not like recent events like Brexit, President Trump, Populism, and a lot of other crazy stuff going on in the World today, but getting angry and then belligerently expressing your anger probably isn’t the answer.  More often than not, anger isn’t nice, it isn’t often pretty, and it isn’t really healthy.  People die from too much anger.

And, depending on who has been in the wrong, then every once in a while, a sincere apology helps.  Sometimes.

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apologizethese thoughts are mine, and mine alone

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

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4 responses

  1. This hit home with me. Not in the sense of current events. But it hit me about being bitter, over things that were not in my control. You are right, I cannot change what happened. No matter how angry, I cannot change the betrayal. But, dang, I have a hard time letting it go.

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    1. Accepting what is ~ that’s a hard lesson, but it’s a lesson well worth the learning. ❤ 😉

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  2. Excellent post! Also great quote by Noah Chomsky. Thank-you.

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    1. Thanks for appreciating my efforts. ❤ 😉 ❤

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