Positive, Assertive, Calm, Determined, Energetic, Generous, Kind, Optimistic..
In the past it’s always been very easy for me to focus on the negative aspects of my personality. I have suffered from extreme insecurity, jealousy, pessimism, selfishness, and immaturity. I’ve been judgmental, aggressive, demanding, bossy, and egotistical. Do you know something? Being a complete jerk is hard work, no wonder I also got tired and petulant at times. But, that’s a Borderline Personality Disorder for you.
Instead of all that negative energy, why don’t I focus on developing my positive character traits? Positive character traits exude an energy which is attractive to others. I’ve been told that I can be charming, funny, kind, considerate, and assertive without being domineering. Some say I’m also intelligent and interesting, challenging but generous, attentive and romantic. And, that it’s obvious I’m an experienced, dominant, been there, done that, don’t mess with me kind of a guy. All I know is that I still have enough of a sense of fun to take pictures of my teddy bear.
The psychological people have told me that positive character traits can be developed and enhanced by making a conscious effort to change, but that it’s really only possible for a man to work on one thing at a time.
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change. ~ Carl Rogers.
Given that sometimes I’m too smart for my own good, I’m going to work on something difficult ~ Congruence. This means being true to me, open, genuine, honest, acting with confident integrity…
This also demands that I have to study what being congruent really means and behave in that way.
The only person who is educated is one who has learned how to learn – and change. ~ Carl Rogers.
As I have asked in prayer; ‘Please teach me how to learn.’