Gaslighting

A friend told me she didn’t know what gaslighting was, which struck me as quite odd, so here’s a repeat more or less, of a much earlier blog.

Go ahead with your life, your plans, your dreams and desires, as fully as you can.

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Affection

he just doesn’t have the time

Anger

he physically intimidates her

Blaming

if you only did what I told you

Choking

she wears a scarf to hide the bruises

Coercion

he makes her have sex with other men

Committment

she had to prove her love too soon

Confidence

he killed her confidence with sneers

Confidences

he told her secrets to his drinking buddies

Confusion

she doubted her own memory

Degredation

in public, he said she was lying

Demanding

he will tolerate nothing but the best

Demeaning

he likes to humiliate her

Drinking

he’s only abusive when he’s been drinking

Fear

she must not disturb his routine

Force

he forces her to sleep on the floor

Gaslighting

often she doubted her own sanity

Infidelity

he said she was just a bitch from the office

Interrogation

where was she and why didn’t she call?

Lying

he confuses her with his mind games

Manipulation

he is underhanded and abusive

Medication

why won’t she take the tranquilisers?

Money

he checks her household account book

Pets

he tells her she never had a cat

Rape

he likes to use objects in her

Rejection

he says she is a bitch and a loser

Sadism

he likes to see her to suffer pain

Sex

when he wants, the way he wants her

Shaming

he said she looked like a slut

Stubbornness

please slow down, you almost hit that truck

Threats

she will be left homeless and broke

Violence

he never actually hit me

Escape

she walks into the sea under dawn’s early light,

and never once looks back

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words and pictures by jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

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One response

  1. I have experienced gas lighting from former partners. I’ve gaslit former lovers. Never gave it much thought until I watched it in a couple, he would tell her lies, and other means to make her doubt her own thinking, when she would accuse him of being unfaithful he would twist her words and thoughts back at her that she would uneventfully admit she was wrong for thinking that way or think he would do such a thing. I view it as a talent. A sick twisted talent, not everyone can do it not like an art form in some people. She did finally leave him after almost 20 years.

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