Reality and Denial

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Surreal Seascape

Without a ruthless search for and acceptance of reality it is almost impossible to live a rewarding Life which will fulfill your true potential.  Yet the vast majority of people would rather live in denial than accept the truth of their personal situation.

Chronic Denial of Reality can be seen in almost all alcoholics, compulsive gamblers, drug addicts, the obese, criminals, politicians, people in dysfunctional relationships…  Yet without admitting there is a problem there is no possibility of fixing the problem.

Accepting and embracing reality is usually difficult and painful.  But, the first of the Great Truths is that Life is Difficult and Painful.  The path to recovery from suffering and mediocrity lies is recognizing this truth.  In fact, dedication to recognising and accepting the truth makes us better able to deal with the real world, and not be trapped in the world inside our own heads.  Real truth is reality, ~  lying to ourselves and lying to others traps us in an unreal, looking-glass world.

tom-hanks-and-cast-awayThere is a strong tendency to hope that bad things will just go away.  There is an even stronger tendency to lie to ourselves, and completely ignore negative feelings, events, and situations.  This shows either a total lack of self-discipline, and / or an underlying psychological or issue.  Even when one is searching for truth and reality, the real issues and problems are sometimes difficult to discover.

In my own case I spent years suffering all kinds of symptoms, from alcohol abuse to being in a series of dysfunctional relationships, before I was strong enough, and willing enough, to search deeply inside myself for the truth.  For most of my life I was unwilling to accept reality.  I have now realised that I suffer from a borderline personality disorder ~ a fear of abandonment.  Which is one reason I live alone, as not having a partner means that I could not be abandoned by my partner.  Fear of abandonment is common and if you suffer from it the disorder will blight every relationship you ever have ~ even to the extent of not entering into close relationships in the first place.

What is Denial?  What is Truth?  What is Reality?   Denial is not a river in Egypt.  Denial is actively refusing to accept the truth.  There is no absolute truth ~ my truth is different from your truth.  For me, searching for the truth seems to be a daily challenge to ignore the myriad surreal falsehoods which come my way.  There is no ultimate reality.  My reality is different from your reality ~ and I’m not ever completely certain what is real and what is a lie.  For example, I firmly believe in the law of cause and effect, but I now know that simple model of the Cosmos does not always hold true. Reality can be as disorienting as any dream state hallucination.  The picture above is a seascape, but it is both true and unreal.

To do more than just survive, to get by in this world without continually suffering, and without being the cause of suffering in others, we just have to do the best we can to be as completely truthful and real as we can.

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P1010717jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

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3 responses

  1. We all have something to battle in some way, some are just more willing to look in to it and actually deal with it. To do that takes a lot of strength.

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    1. Eventually, if life is hurting badly enough, even I will look deep inside to find truth and reality.

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  2. From resent event in my life . Dealing with disfunctional family member. I totally agree with you. That in the case of drugs & drink are concerned he can’t see what is reality at all. 100% what he say is either lies or truth to what he believes.
    In nut shell he has lost Royal plot .

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