Don’t Make Your Own Truth


When you haven’t slept for days, and you spend all your time in the depths of hopelessness, convinced that you are physically, mentally, and spiritually ill, and that there is no cure, no way out at all, then even the glimmer of an end of suffering will have you hanging on to that dim light like a drowning man clutches at a lifebelt.

So it was for me at a grim three o’clock in the morning on Monday, March 28th, 2016 ~ Easter Monday.

The single glimmer of hope in the darkness were these words; ‘Life is difficult.  This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths.’  The opening words of a book called The Road Less Travelled.

This is also the first of the Four Noble Truths as revealed by the Buddha.

Being in the hopeless state I am, for today I have simplified these Four Noble Truths into versions I can understand;

  1. Life is difficult and painful.
  2. The causes of my problems and pain are my own cravings, lusts, and my blaming of others.
  3. I can’t change what happens to me, but I can change what I do.
  4. The path to freedom from suffering is through self-discipline in body, mind, and spirit.

The cruel trick my mind is already playing on me is that I keep forgetting what #3 says.  I know there ‘s a #3, but I forget what it says.

No one saves us but ourselves.  No one can and no one may.  We ourselves must walk the path.  ~  Gautama Buddha.

Dying is easy.  Living takes work.  Don’t try and do it all on your own.


9 responses

  1. I don’t know why I like what you wrote I just do. Especially the last few lines. Thanks for sharing them.

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    1. Even at the darkest of tmes there is always hope. I was just lucky enough to be shown exactly the words I needed to read, when I really needed to read them…. ‘Life is difficult.’

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  2. Please seek help. I have no doubt you are on the right path, but this isn’t something you have to battle alone, nor should you. Your words are correct, YOU have to change you, but Please find someone that can offer you help and support. Seeking that help will be something you have done. I can’t sit and hold your hand, but my heart is open and sending you lots of support and love. xoxo

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    1. Thank you Sweetheart, your words and support mean more to me than you can possibly know. Holding your hand would be nice.

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      1. I wish I could hold your hand. I am in my heart. 🙂

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  3. Need good surport network . Good friends will help you. Anyone with bad word . Sharp goodbye. Quote from a friend . “Don’t let door hit you on way out thank you”

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  4. I told a friend this last line in your reflection, the other day. My meaning was that, since living is a daily practice, we should not burden ourselves with pain and suffering. By that, I meant not holding on to people who inflict pain, thinking that it is awful to be alone. The Buddha’s quote is right: Mindful practice is individual. Embracing that truth makes everything easier.

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    1. Thank you for your insightful words. I am very used to being alone. I belive that true friends are those who will stick with you and offer a little support when it is most needed. I have also been in disfunctional relationships ~ situations and people I should have left much earlier than I did. I now believe that if your gut tells you to get out, you should run, run now, run far, and run fast.

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      1. Absolutely, Jack. Be well. xo

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