The Road Less Travelled

Alternative Living # 9 ~ Solitude and Mental Health


Most of my life has been spent alone.  When I was a child I sought solitude.  When I bought my first place I lived alone for 5 years.  Even when I had a partner I spent most of my time alone, travelling, being ‘on the road’ for work, living out of suitcases in lonely hotels 4, 5 or 6 days a week.  And now, I have lived alone in the seaside apartment I call ‘the garret’ for over ten years, and nobody is allowed into the garret.

Turns out that spending too much time alone can be very bad for your mental and spiritual health.

Turns out that some of the things I’ve done in the past few weeks have convinced me that I am spiritually /mentally ill ~ and you probably have no idea how much it hurts to admit that in writing.  I am pretty certain that I have become a sexually repressed obsessive alcoholic who also suffers from stress, anxiety and depression.  Maybe with a few other problems thrown in.

Admitting the problem is the first step to recovery ~ and there is a plan I can use to become the true me, without the baggage of behavioural problems I have been carrying.  Admitting that life is difficult is the second step to recovery.

Life is difficult.  This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths.  It is a great truth because once we see the truth, we transcend it.  Once we truly know that life is difficult ~ once we truly understand and accept it ~ then life is no longer difficult.  Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.  ~  M. Scott Peck from The Road Less Travelled.

I belive that Dr. Peck’s book is based on The Four Noble Truths from Buddhist teachings.  The Four Noble Truths lead to the Noble Eightfold Path, and it’s this road I intend to follow to recover from my need to avoid all pain, my suffering of uncontrollable cravings and lusts, seeking out and clinging only to what is pleasurable.  It is a long journey, not a final destination, to my becoming the good and true person I know I can be.

Wish me well.  ~


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8 responses

  1. I believe you have the strength of character to do this hard work and come out the other side the best possible you.
    As always, I’m sending love and more positive energy than you’ll know what to do with.

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    1. Thank you so much for your love and positive energies ~ I really appreciate your care for me.

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  2. I wish you well, Jack. Life is a mystery I don’t think will ever be solved. Becoming our true selves, finding the right path, is a challenge which can be achieved as long as one accepts all things including ourselves change. Like decluttering it is an ongoing process.

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  3. I do wish you well, Jack. And as you know, the first step in solving a problem is admitting you have one. The Buddist religion is one I intend to study. None I have looked into thus far has held any promis for me.

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    1. Thank you for your good wishes. I believe the Noble Eightfold Path may be more of a spiritual philosophy than a religion… Which suits me very well.

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      1. I agree, I phrased it wrong. Spiritually holds more appeal than does religion…in my opinion.

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  4. Oh Sir, I wish you great success. There will still be pain and challenges ahead, but getting on the right path is definitely a wonderful start. My thoughts and prayers are with you, always. ❤️

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    1. Thank you ever so much. I appreciate the support of your kind words, thoughts, and prayers.

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