Everybody lies all the time. Lies of commission, lies of omission, white lies, black lies, lies to assuage your feelings, lies to deceive you, lies that will hurt you. The people you care for the most lie to you, your lover lies to you, people in positions of power lie to you, people you don’t even know lie to you, you lie to yourself.
Above all don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love. ~ Fyodor Dostoyevsky
The lies that bind the tightest are those you tell yourself.
It doesn’t matter. Being lied to does not matter. If you truly want to know the truth, then just look inside yourself, the truth is in your soul. You can look though the tangled webs of dark deceit, the traps set by others, and see the things you always knew to be honest, real, and true.
Needing and wanting the brutal and unpolished truth is a rare thing indeed. All of us always know the real truth, but we do not want to listen to the truth, acknowledge it, accept it, or understand it. It is human to want to believe the lie, if the lie is a warmer, kinder, less dangerous thing than brutal honesty.
The truth hurts.
Better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie. ~ Khaled Hosseini
Life can be cruel. Your heart will be broken over and over again. Feelings of crushing disappointment and loss over someone you love and care for will happen. You will be betrayed. People will lie, cheat, and steal from you. The ones you once loved will try to destroy you. It does not matter. Nobody can make you feel anything. Your feelings are your own feelings.
What practical use is all this?
In practical terms, remember this; Information does not have to be true to be useful.
The lies people tell reveal their innermost selves. Stop listening to the lies, instead take a good look at the liar. Liars reveal Everything of themselves in their lies. Everything you could ever want or need to know is just below the surface of the lie. You don’t even have to look very hard. To know the real truth, just accept the things you already know.
You already know the truth, all you need to do is to accept the truth.
But, be very careful, this is a great revelation and a great power. To use it wisely we must first make the utmost effort to stop lying to ourselves. How do we do that difficult thing?
Allow your innermost self the gift of honest love for your own self, for without true self-love we are all liars.